After many debates with peers on the
controversial subject of modesty, my son decided that a series on modesty from a guy's perspective was long overdue. I've
included this preview from his first post here. Please read and share!
(Part 1 of 3)
Part 1: What’s wrong with Modesty?
What’s the deal with Modesty?
It doesn’t take a genius to realize that women are
wearing less clothing than ever in our Western society. Is this good or bad? Is
it freeing women and improving society? Or is it having the opposite effect?
First off, what is
modesty? It has become a “buzz” word today in our culture. “Modesty” has
become synonymous with oppression, unattractiveness, judging, Legalism, and a
host of other unpleasant words and ideas. But what does modesty really mean? Here
are a couple definitions.
1. the quality of being
modest; freedom from vanity,
boastfulness, etc.
2. regard for decency
of behavior, speech, dress, etc.
Just looking at those definitions, they look really
good! Who wouldn’t say that a person should be free from vanity and
boastfulness, and that a person should act decently in behavior, speech, and
dress? No one would refute that those are good qualities to have, right? So then why are so many men and women
advocating immodest dress?
Could it be that there is some benefit to
wearing immodest clothing that we are not seeing? Or are there problems with modesty
that go beyond the definition? What’s wrong with modesty?
One thing I hear often is that dressing modestly
isn’t comfortable. For example, one girl (girl A) has told me, “I've always hated skirts and dresses as a
child, because being forced into them so often, and I feel bad for girls that
dress like Muslims because of it - though, I have met girls that prefer it. It
depends on your mind set - wear what you feel comfy in!”
I don’t know what gave her the impression that a
girl has to dress like a Muslim to be modest, but does she have a point? Should
comfort be the number one factor in what we wear?
That’s a very relative statement. What’s comfortable
for one person may not be for another. What if someone feels most comfortable
going naked? Should they because it’s comfortable? I think almost everyone
would agree absolutely not. Why? Because it’s not respectful to others.
I very much dislike waiting in long lines.
It’s very uncomfortable. Should I just start cutting to the front of lines from
now on? No, because that’s not respectful to all the other people waiting in
line. I have to sacrifice my comfort to respect others. Can you imagine if
everyone just ran around looking out for their own comfort, disregarding
others? A frightening thought, don’t you think?
So if our comfort will slight other people, then we
should forgo it in consideration of others. But is dressing modestly so
uncomfortable? What’s so uncomfortable about skirts? I’ve never worn one, so I
can’t say, however, my two younger sisters say skirts are much more comfortable
than pants. I have a guy friend who won’t even wear jeans because he says
they’re uncomfortable. So I don’t think anyone can say skin-tight jeans are
more comfortable than skirts. Now, I know a girl who has said that she only
wears cleavage exposing shirts because anything higher is uncomfortable.
*blink* Really? I almost exclusively wear crew neck shirts, and they are not
uncomfortable at all. I think V-necks are actually less-comfortable. But I’m
not a girl, so what do I know?...(read the rest here*)
